It's time for a change

I haven't been around a lot lately, in the last month or so. My life has been bascally in suspended animation, a sense of pergatory... Life in limbo.

In Dec my wife got a job (great pay and less stress) in a place about 2 hours south f our home in Durham NC. She started Jan 23rd, a week after we found and moved into a great rental house in Hope Mills, a nice little town on the periphery of Fayetteville NC and about half an hour north of where she works.

In the meantime, I retain my job in Durham with a lot of hope and optimism. The job in Durham pays well, and for th emost part works fine when the inept supervisor doenst muck up the works and annoy me.

I cannot travel two hours one way to work each day and two hours to go home each day.... and I was not ready to quit, so I offered an idea of us trying to make this position one where I can telecommute. Work from home and do my job, which is basically phone sales and phone switch board.

So for now, I stay with my mom an hour from work, during the weekdays and Fridays after work, I head to hope Mills for the weekend, only to head back to moms Sunday night.

The job was going to get me a laptop and get things set up to were I can work from home.... but for the first month of this pilot program work from home on Tuesdays and Thursdays.... and work IN the office Mon, Wed and Fri.

After the initial 4 weeks, then they expect me to work Mon and Wed in the office and the rest of the time work from home,

Recently I asked if we can change up the schedule for the first 4 weeks to work in the office MOn through Wednesday, work at home Thurs & Friday. I received word today that it probably wont go as they with for me to be in the office three days a week... to be more visable".

What does that mean? I work on the telephone 8 hours a day from my office. I am not very visable currently other than holding a tour of our center on Monday mornings for new clients that started that week.

Otherwise, it's the phone and emails, in my office. I am the call center where all calls come to me first and I route calls accordingly.

I am not defending or otherwise explaining their rationale in these decisions, instead I suppose I am reconciling in my mind the meeting I will have tomorrow with my supervisor and her supervisor and how I intend on telling them the whole deal is off.  Of how time has expired on this whole thing (originally I gave em 30 days to get stuff together.... that expired  days ago).

Of how I am going to hand in my resignation, give em the two weeks and part ways without having anything lined up on the other end of all of this... well, exc ept a few temp agencies and possibly be an Uber driver (short term).

I feel most of this is my fault anyway as I drew a line in the sand.... then did not follow up. I let things go in my effort to help the organization (and to keep my $18 an hour job over potentially a $10 an hour job at the Grocery store in Hope Mills which will break my friggin heart for a variety of reasons).

Its time for me to move on. To back up by actions what I have said Id do. 

It's time to move on, as scary as it may be for me, it is less frustrating and soul sucking as the circumstances I find myself in now currently.

 

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Comments (18)

  1. EyeVey

    I work mostly from home now. The major issues were productivity. That hurdle took awhile to get over, but I’m far more productive working remotely. Good luck!

    March 07, 2017
    1. knights68

      I suspected at first that was their concern, but after second thought I suspect it is more of what someone else (a supervisor) won’t have to do and more of what I will have to do. She is a pro at putting things off onto other people, and I think in part this is another example.

      March 07, 2017
  2. tiggers

    I wish you all the luck in the world my friend

    March 07, 2017
    1. knights68

      Thanks Tiggie baby, I always appreciate your support

      March 07, 2017
      1. tiggers

        You are very welcome my friend

        March 08, 2017
  3. Bettymom

    My son works at home – he’s employed by Dell. He has to make an appearance at the office once every couple of weeks to prove he’s still alive. His wife also works at home for a company that’s in some other state! He usually works nights and she works days, so they’re able to use the same bedroom as an office. I wish you had been able to get that worked out for yourself. A four-hour commute every day just isn’t doable!!

    March 07, 2017
    1. knights68

      Thanks for the info and about your son and d-i-l. I have a big meeting today at 1:30 with the new HCA here and my supervisor. I have been advised by my former supervisor, of whom I totally respect his opinion and miss working for/with him, to stand my ground, offer the one idea left to offer and give ’em until Friday to make a decision or put in my 2 week notice. And that is what I am going to do, hell or high water, balls to the wall and all that! lol

      March 07, 2017
      1. Bettymom

        Good. Stick to your guns. We all know your job can be done just as well from home and they know it, too. I wonder why they’re trying to make it so complicated.

        March 07, 2017
        1. knights68

          “They” (honestly I think it’s my supervisor, the professional job passer, who is putting up the resistance so she doesn’t have to do some duties she should already be doing but has cast it off onto me and others before. With me working from home, she’ll have to actually start doing stuff.

          March 07, 2017
          1. Bettymom

            That sounds right! My daughter was passed over for a promotion (which was later rectified) and the person who got the job didn’t have any experience or training. That meant my daughter had to do everything that she would have had to do if she had gotten the promotion in the first place! Everything came out okay eventually, but my daughter had to do double duty in the meantime.

            March 07, 2017
  4. rebecca2013

    Oh sweetie…. I am so sorry it didn’t work out for you…. that is sad…. but you are bright and energetic and will find something better I am sure of that…. that kind of commute would have worn you out… Good luck my friend….I hope something comes up soon for you….

    March 07, 2017
    1. knights68

      I am just sssoooo tired. Not from the 2 hour a day commute, not from seeing my wife, pets and great rental house for less than 48 hours a week, not from staying with my mom for 5 days a week, but rather from these silly conditions that make no sense. And they wanna try to pile the conditions up more, which I knew would be the case and was ready for such contingencies, which is why today I have a meeting with the supervisor and the new HCA to which I will express myself (calmly and scripted to stay on point) and give ’em until end of week to get their (*@&)()$ together!

      March 07, 2017
  5. Munkyman

    I did a 2 hour commute for a ski season, it was kind of fun it gave me time to get my head into work & back out & in to the short period of home time I’d enjoy. That’s the thing that’s a glass 1/2 full, with less home time you have to use it, you can’t have TV time, time’s too precious, but that time is precious & you tend to treat it like it is. As for visibility, the staff need to see that you’re there supporting them, it’s a morale thing & that’s what I see being the intent, whether it’s good science or not.

    March 07, 2017
    1. knights68

      2 hours a day commute is one thing…. one thing to which I am adapting to. And I am trying to utilize the travel time more (audio books, Sirius radio… classic radio programs). But with that aside, the visibility is a farce. I am THE call center, taking and routing calls, in addition to my own sales calls. How can I, hidden in my office within an office, be visible when it is expected that I am on the phones constantly. It doesn’t make sense in that aspect.
      Of course, perhaps it would come more into focus (and more meaningful to me the more removed from this time I get) that the program director commented last month at the all-staff meeting that “calls are secondary”. Calls, the lifeblood of getting people into the door, is secondary. The leader of this program said this without hesitation. Maybe it’s not me afterall, maybe it’s this little warped universe I work in.

      March 07, 2017
      1. Munkyman

        I never said it’s be reasonable, but that’d be the rationale I’d expect. The fact is probably more along the lines of they’re uncomfortable with the concept of tele-commuting & need to see it in action before they realize you could easily come in once a month & do just about everything else through eMail & FedEx.

        March 07, 2017
  6. SEC

    change is usually stressfull especially if one is prone to second guessing one’s self (as I am)

    March 07, 2017
    1. knights68

      I just wanna do the job and be left alone, ya know?

      March 07, 2017
      1. SEC

        I hear that!

        March 07, 2017